Anonymous
June 22, 2026 at 2:19:06 AM
Hi, sorry in advance for the long message!
I just wanted to say your site really emotionally reinstated me back with the pro-fic and pro-para community, especially given the fact I've been so detached from the communities due to meeting not-nice people and overall having a bad experience with the communities. I don't believe im pro-para myself, or at least im anti-contact para. i believe paraphiles should (mostly) be obligated to recover in order to protect both themselves and others. I know it does sound ablest towards paraphiles to just "force" them to recover.. but the goal of recovery is not to remove your paraphilia but to reduce a persons discomfort with their paraphilia and reduce the risk of any harmful behavior, i guess what im trying to say is that paraphiles that have harmful paras (such as the big three) should acknowledge why and how their paraphilia is harmful towards other living things through therapy; which is a reliable source of information. I don't believe it's black and white though, and i never will, because i myself have one of the big three. I feel like that's something i should mention, since i dont want to come off as an outsider looking in; im just simply looking around me.
Anywho, im very much pro-fic and honestly was relieved to find someone else who is too! I enjoy your website, its very fun to look around and gave me a bit of a relaxation as if i could be myself; thus, allowing me to share this with you
I saw the other guestbook message and just want to say PLEASE keep living, i understand its just a stupid remark but insults like those genuinely can hurt someone especially at their lowest, so i just wanna say keep living and thriving and keep making things that make you happy. You're still a being, and you deserve life.
I really want to be friends, or if you just wanna have friendly debates for fun, let me know... i can send a message through your toyhouse! im also not done making my website, so i didnt link it. but when im done ill let you know through TH so maybe we can link eachother (?) anyways, have a great day!
Replied on: June 25, 2026 at 2:56:16 AM
hello and sorry for the late response !!
i am glad that my site has resonated with you in some way,, and i do agree with you that ""harmful"" paraphilias ((although i do not like using those words since i believe that no paraphilia is inherently harmful)) such as the big three should acknowledge that acting on their attractions outside of roleplay and/or fiction is harmful.. However,, i do have to say,, if somebody has never felt any discomfort with their paraphilia, then why should they be forced into a recovery ? I dont think that you are ableist for thinking otherwise,, and i actually think that we could get along even if we disagree on certain things
about the comment,, yeah im pretty used to those but luckily i am at a pretty good mental state right now and dont let meaningless comments get the best of me.. i still appreciate your kind words tho
im not too social on TH as i mainly use it as an oc archive,, but im cool with linking eachtohers websites,, im still working on my links page lolol